Better late than never. 2011 is promising to be an interesting year. Matthew and I are expecting our first child this September! I guess that means all bets are off if you were part of the group of people mocking our wedding lol. Sorry to disappoint, but we got pregnant in January :) And we couldn't be happier.
Tomorrow I will be 21 weeks. Pregnancy has been kind to me. I believe that this is a very mellow baby, like his father. When I say kind, I don't mean drama free. I have had more than my share of horrors this pregnancy and don't wish to go into detail explaining them. Tomorrow we have our 5th ultrasound!
2011 means saying hello to a new baby and saying goodbye to a loved friend. My beloved dog Dino, passed away suddenly in the middle of a person tornado. I have never been more depressed in my entire life, than I was when Dino died. He died right on my lap, with a great big smile on his face. He was 11 years old and the best damn dog I could have ever asked for. He was the dog everyone loved to hate but he could always cheer you up. He was my best friend....my baby and I miss him more than any human being I have ever known. He was the last part of my old life... and the last thing I could hold on too to having that life back. Now he is gone...just like my old family. Now I get to focus on starting my own family...a new beginning.
The tornado has settled for now and I can smile again. Marrying Matthew was the best thing I could have ever done. He makes me so happy. He is going to be such a great father. He is my everything and all I need in this world to be happy. I am so blessed to have him in my life and for us to watch our love grow into a wonderful little baby. No doubt about it, this baby is going to be loved to pieces. We have a wonderful support group and amazing friends.
I love my new life. It is everything I could have wanted it to be a more. I have always been a believer in fate. I look back on my life one year ago and I was wedding planning (the good, the bad, the ugly) and didn't think I could get any happier (despite the drama) but I am a zillion times happier now, than I was then. Crazy things are happening and I always knew things would be ok...the rest of the world just needs to chill.
So happy :)
Monday, May 9, 2011
Sunday, January 2, 2011
Divorce rates for 2010-cheers to a 2011
Did you know that in 2010 the USA was ranked number one in highest divorce rates? We had 4.95 per 1,000 people divorces in 2010. In 2006 my family joined the club and I can honestly say that it destroyed my family. Matt has also been a victim of divorce when his family was split around 2003.
I came from a family of 4 children and two parents. We had a single house and a good education. We had good friends and use to sit down and eat dinner as a family every night. We use to go up the mountains every year to pick pumpkins and cut down Christmas trees. During the summer, friends use to come over and swim in my pool for hours and we use to dive for pennies and tan on beaches. That is a very brief summary of what we use to have and how I and everyone else saw our family.
In 2006, everything changed. Violence arose and corruption and adultery aired its ugly head. Children were separated and beaten on the ground. Horrible names were called and police became frequent visitors. Our neighbors looked at us differently and friends we use to have became distant. It was and feels like it always will be an ugly war to destroy everything that use to be good...including the children and what makes the children happy.
Divorces should not include and destroy the lives of the children involved. The children did nothing wrong, they are simply reacting to the changes occurring in their lives. Life should be as normal as possible for those children because regardless of how much the parents try, the lives of the children have been flipped upside down. They went years knowing a specific routine and all of a sudden their lives are changed and they suddenly have two fighting parents who live apart.
Dear Parents or Future Parents,
Divorce can ruin your family. There is no 'right' way to leave your husband or wife but there is a mature and adult way to deal with it. If you are not mature enough for a divorce then do not get offended when your children hate you. You cannot make your children decide on who they love and if you are able to brain wash them then I hope you go to hell. You were clearly not built for the amazing sacrament of marriage and for the blessing of children so just do everyone a favor and keep your feelings towards your ex separate from your children. Remember that continuous love and support created and held your relationship with your family and in order to maintain that relationship you need to continue doing that. Calling your husband a "m-fer" or a "monster" is not healthy for the relationship you want to maintain you your kids. Destroying friendships is not a mature way to secure your relationship with your kids and will only lead to bad results.
I am sharing this first hand. America, wake up. This hasn't just happened to me... it happens to most divorced families.
As a newly wed who has been with my husband for a wonderful 6 years before we even tied the knot, I am letting the world wide web know that I do not intend on divorcing my husband. I swore in front of God and my friends that I would stay with Matthew through the good and the bad regardless of health, wealth, and death do us part.
If I could recommend something...
You know who you are...
Leave us alone. You did enough damage but not enough to destroy our spirits. Leave our brothers and sisters alone. Stop pretending to be someone you are not and come clean... you will get more respect that way. Stop focusing on finding 'love' when your kids don't even talk to you. The 'love' you are searching for will never replace what you lost and what you are losing. Your actions have consequences and they have hurt more people than you think they have.
To those who have been hurt by divorce,
I am sorry. When you find love, understand that it is serious. It is not a fairytale and its not a game. People do ugly things for different reasons. Prioritize what is the most important thing in your life and stick with it. Bad things sometimes happens to good people and in the game of love... sometimes nasty moves are made to destroy the other person. Life isn't fair and you will come out stronger in the end. Sometimes blood isn't thicker than water and it is ok to cut loose a relative as long as your happier and healthier in the end.
We are happier and healthier without you. 2011 is going to be a year without the petty drama. 2011 is a year where I am married and your opinion of me or Matthew does nothing because you are no longer in our circle of trust. We no longer mourn you and do not wish to continue a relationship with you. When you are ready to act your age and realize where you messed up, you have our number and will leave a message. There will be no more molesting boyfriends, no more false IEP claims, no more 'cunt' calling, no more allowing your daughter to call people a "m-effer", no more abuse or restraining orders, no more control issues, and no more lectures in wedding cards. We see you for who you really are and you are uglier than who you use to be. We wish you the best recovery and hope one day you find God and peace in your life because you are going to need it.
Cheers to 2011 and being drama free! Anyone who wants to embrace this new life style or reconcile your differences is more than welcome to join in on our celebration!
RIP:
Matts family minus one...
My family when we use to be happy even though I don't look it...
I came from a family of 4 children and two parents. We had a single house and a good education. We had good friends and use to sit down and eat dinner as a family every night. We use to go up the mountains every year to pick pumpkins and cut down Christmas trees. During the summer, friends use to come over and swim in my pool for hours and we use to dive for pennies and tan on beaches. That is a very brief summary of what we use to have and how I and everyone else saw our family.
In 2006, everything changed. Violence arose and corruption and adultery aired its ugly head. Children were separated and beaten on the ground. Horrible names were called and police became frequent visitors. Our neighbors looked at us differently and friends we use to have became distant. It was and feels like it always will be an ugly war to destroy everything that use to be good...including the children and what makes the children happy.
Divorces should not include and destroy the lives of the children involved. The children did nothing wrong, they are simply reacting to the changes occurring in their lives. Life should be as normal as possible for those children because regardless of how much the parents try, the lives of the children have been flipped upside down. They went years knowing a specific routine and all of a sudden their lives are changed and they suddenly have two fighting parents who live apart.
Dear Parents or Future Parents,
Divorce can ruin your family. There is no 'right' way to leave your husband or wife but there is a mature and adult way to deal with it. If you are not mature enough for a divorce then do not get offended when your children hate you. You cannot make your children decide on who they love and if you are able to brain wash them then I hope you go to hell. You were clearly not built for the amazing sacrament of marriage and for the blessing of children so just do everyone a favor and keep your feelings towards your ex separate from your children. Remember that continuous love and support created and held your relationship with your family and in order to maintain that relationship you need to continue doing that. Calling your husband a "m-fer" or a "monster" is not healthy for the relationship you want to maintain you your kids. Destroying friendships is not a mature way to secure your relationship with your kids and will only lead to bad results.
I am sharing this first hand. America, wake up. This hasn't just happened to me... it happens to most divorced families.
As a newly wed who has been with my husband for a wonderful 6 years before we even tied the knot, I am letting the world wide web know that I do not intend on divorcing my husband. I swore in front of God and my friends that I would stay with Matthew through the good and the bad regardless of health, wealth, and death do us part.
If I could recommend something...
You know who you are...
Leave us alone. You did enough damage but not enough to destroy our spirits. Leave our brothers and sisters alone. Stop pretending to be someone you are not and come clean... you will get more respect that way. Stop focusing on finding 'love' when your kids don't even talk to you. The 'love' you are searching for will never replace what you lost and what you are losing. Your actions have consequences and they have hurt more people than you think they have.
To those who have been hurt by divorce,
I am sorry. When you find love, understand that it is serious. It is not a fairytale and its not a game. People do ugly things for different reasons. Prioritize what is the most important thing in your life and stick with it. Bad things sometimes happens to good people and in the game of love... sometimes nasty moves are made to destroy the other person. Life isn't fair and you will come out stronger in the end. Sometimes blood isn't thicker than water and it is ok to cut loose a relative as long as your happier and healthier in the end.
We are happier and healthier without you. 2011 is going to be a year without the petty drama. 2011 is a year where I am married and your opinion of me or Matthew does nothing because you are no longer in our circle of trust. We no longer mourn you and do not wish to continue a relationship with you. When you are ready to act your age and realize where you messed up, you have our number and will leave a message. There will be no more molesting boyfriends, no more false IEP claims, no more 'cunt' calling, no more allowing your daughter to call people a "m-effer", no more abuse or restraining orders, no more control issues, and no more lectures in wedding cards. We see you for who you really are and you are uglier than who you use to be. We wish you the best recovery and hope one day you find God and peace in your life because you are going to need it.
Cheers to 2011 and being drama free! Anyone who wants to embrace this new life style or reconcile your differences is more than welcome to join in on our celebration!
RIP:
Matts family minus one...
My family when we use to be happy even though I don't look it...
Wednesday, November 3, 2010
95 days married!
The last 95 days have been the best days of my life! I can't believe that in 5 days, Matt and I will have been married for 100 days! We celebrate each other everyday and it is amazing. I love counting our days. If your reading and married.. or getting married... how many days have you been together or have until you get married? Do you share similar feelings? What are some of your fondest memories together? We would love to hear from you!
What does the future hold in store for us? The next 100 days should be very exciting. Everyday is better than the last. We are working very hard on some big life changing changes but only God knows what is in store for us. We are ready for whatever life has to throw at us.
Matthew and I had a wonderful 1st Halloween together as a married couple. We celebrated with a group of our friends and had a wonderful time. I was a pirate and Matt was a gangster... maybe next year we will have matching costumes or something lol. Christmas is right around the corner and I am not ready for the holiday season in the least. Since the wedding and honeymoon, we havent had the chance to continue where we left off. In other words, we need to seriously clean up our almost 100 days old wedding mess. Our lives blasted off immediately after the wedding and have been nonstop since so there has been little time for cleaning. I'll find time around Thanksgiving when everyone has off, company rarely comes over anyway... we normally go out.
In a nut shell, life is good and we are very happy. The future looks bright for us, as it should. Everything always works out, even when it looks like it might not. Thats something I learned and trusted during the wedding process.... God always provides even when it seems like things are impossible. Some people have a hard time trusting that things will work out when they appear difficult but Ive learned that you can't fight what you can not control so sit back and enjoy the ride. Thanks for reading!
What does the future hold in store for us? The next 100 days should be very exciting. Everyday is better than the last. We are working very hard on some big life changing changes but only God knows what is in store for us. We are ready for whatever life has to throw at us.
Matthew and I had a wonderful 1st Halloween together as a married couple. We celebrated with a group of our friends and had a wonderful time. I was a pirate and Matt was a gangster... maybe next year we will have matching costumes or something lol. Christmas is right around the corner and I am not ready for the holiday season in the least. Since the wedding and honeymoon, we havent had the chance to continue where we left off. In other words, we need to seriously clean up our almost 100 days old wedding mess. Our lives blasted off immediately after the wedding and have been nonstop since so there has been little time for cleaning. I'll find time around Thanksgiving when everyone has off, company rarely comes over anyway... we normally go out.
In a nut shell, life is good and we are very happy. The future looks bright for us, as it should. Everything always works out, even when it looks like it might not. Thats something I learned and trusted during the wedding process.... God always provides even when it seems like things are impossible. Some people have a hard time trusting that things will work out when they appear difficult but Ive learned that you can't fight what you can not control so sit back and enjoy the ride. Thanks for reading!
Monday, September 27, 2010
Nearly 10 weeks later...
Hey everyone, so its been almost 10 weeks since Matt and I were joined in love before God and our friends and it has been the bees knees! We are so happy. Everyday is a blessing and we are truly thankful for having each other in our lives. Falling asleep and waking up next to the person you love the most in the world, is really a soothing feeling and it starts and ends every day as it should. Since we have been married, we have noticed a strong instinct between one another. Everything the priest said about marriage is true, its more than a wedding, its a sacrament and a life long commitment to one another that lassos itself around both our hearts and God, then is interlocked together forever and ever. It's an overwhelming calm feeling we share when we are reunited throughout the day. It's really cool and I am honored to have Matthew as my husband for the rest of my life.
Since the wedding Matthew and I have been very busy. Our lives have not settled down at all. We are constantly organizing future plans and living in the moment...the very busy moment. I realize that we like our lives busy because it's too short for us to stop planning and doing things. We have one life together and we are going to make the most of it. We are living our lives our way... and no one elses. I am very proud of what we have accomplished and what we will accomplish and create in the future. It is very exciting, so expect big things from us because we don't do 'small'. LOL
I have never felt this much at peace with my life. I feel as if I have cut out all the dead weight from me and am reborn to do what I want, when I want, without care. I don't need to bother dwelling in the past because our future is so bright and full of amazing events. Our past is dead and won't be coming back to life so there is no need to mourn. It's a great feeling. I highly recommend this feeling. LOL
While we are on the topic of future goals and ambitions, does anyone have any questions or advice for us? We don't claim to know everything there is about everything so any words of advice would be appreciated. We will continue to keep you updated on our live and events as much as we are able to. Thanks for reading!
Since the wedding Matthew and I have been very busy. Our lives have not settled down at all. We are constantly organizing future plans and living in the moment...the very busy moment. I realize that we like our lives busy because it's too short for us to stop planning and doing things. We have one life together and we are going to make the most of it. We are living our lives our way... and no one elses. I am very proud of what we have accomplished and what we will accomplish and create in the future. It is very exciting, so expect big things from us because we don't do 'small'. LOL
I have never felt this much at peace with my life. I feel as if I have cut out all the dead weight from me and am reborn to do what I want, when I want, without care. I don't need to bother dwelling in the past because our future is so bright and full of amazing events. Our past is dead and won't be coming back to life so there is no need to mourn. It's a great feeling. I highly recommend this feeling. LOL
While we are on the topic of future goals and ambitions, does anyone have any questions or advice for us? We don't claim to know everything there is about everything so any words of advice would be appreciated. We will continue to keep you updated on our live and events as much as we are able to. Thanks for reading!
Thursday, August 19, 2010
19 days married!!!
Hey everyone,
Matt and I will be married for 3 full weeks in 2 days! We are going away to celebrate and then having dinner with some friends! The last 19 days have been the happiest days of my life. I feel reborn and all the things that bothered me in the past, are dead and gone because I have moved on. I have more important things to concentrate on now... I have my own family now and a life of my own. It's absolutely wonderful. I have always asked "What does it feel like to be married" to my friends who have gotten married before me. They always said..."it feels the same except now we are married". Well, it does feel the same but everything is better! It's a difficult feeling to explain in words, but I can feel how much stronger our relationship is now that we are married. It's a deeper, more powerful love than before. It's wonderful and we are both so happy. Our wedding was perfect. Nearly everyone came to celebrate with us and everyone raved about how our wedding was one of the best weddings they have ever attended. It was definitely the best wedding/party I ever had and ever will. We are both so excited about our lives together and cannot wait to share so many deep and powerful moments together.
Our lives are so young and fresh... we can do anything right now. The number one question people have been asking is "When can we expect a baby?" We want children whenever God is ready to give us children. Babies are not 'planned' even though some couples 'try' for babies...they are not necessarily going to get a child when they want one. God will give life only when He sees fit and neither Matt nor I will fight it when/if our time comes and neither should anyone else.
The last 19 days have been a dream. I highly recommend this feeling and don't see how we won't continue to have this feeling for the rest of our lives. We believe that when you find true love, it can with stand anything...you just need to be willing to give and take a little from each other. We are preparing for a new chapter of our lives together and I have the feeling that things will be getting very interesting in the next year or two. Thanks for reading!
Matt and I will be married for 3 full weeks in 2 days! We are going away to celebrate and then having dinner with some friends! The last 19 days have been the happiest days of my life. I feel reborn and all the things that bothered me in the past, are dead and gone because I have moved on. I have more important things to concentrate on now... I have my own family now and a life of my own. It's absolutely wonderful. I have always asked "What does it feel like to be married" to my friends who have gotten married before me. They always said..."it feels the same except now we are married". Well, it does feel the same but everything is better! It's a difficult feeling to explain in words, but I can feel how much stronger our relationship is now that we are married. It's a deeper, more powerful love than before. It's wonderful and we are both so happy. Our wedding was perfect. Nearly everyone came to celebrate with us and everyone raved about how our wedding was one of the best weddings they have ever attended. It was definitely the best wedding/party I ever had and ever will. We are both so excited about our lives together and cannot wait to share so many deep and powerful moments together.
Our lives are so young and fresh... we can do anything right now. The number one question people have been asking is "When can we expect a baby?" We want children whenever God is ready to give us children. Babies are not 'planned' even though some couples 'try' for babies...they are not necessarily going to get a child when they want one. God will give life only when He sees fit and neither Matt nor I will fight it when/if our time comes and neither should anyone else.
The last 19 days have been a dream. I highly recommend this feeling and don't see how we won't continue to have this feeling for the rest of our lives. We believe that when you find true love, it can with stand anything...you just need to be willing to give and take a little from each other. We are preparing for a new chapter of our lives together and I have the feeling that things will be getting very interesting in the next year or two. Thanks for reading!
Monday, August 2, 2010
The out of body experience:
Its been 32 days since our last post! We are now 2 days married and are more than thrilled!! Our wedding was absolutely perfect and we couldn't have wanted it any other way! We had such a great time, everything was better than we could have ever imagined. Matt had breakfast in bed delivered to me, surprised me with fancy new jewelery, gave me live entertainment, and a magician to entertain everyone during cocktail hour! It was absolutely perfect!
Thank you to everyone who came out for the ceremony and those of you who came and partied with us at the reception! We'd like to thank everyone who helped make our special day so incredible; my dad, Matt's mother, my maids of honor Cait and Jill, the best men Steven and John, and of course the bridal party Christina, Ashley, Rachel, Nicole, Mike, Maeve, Zach, Anthony, Abbie and Jenn, Julius, Jenn, Jules, Devon, and Little Mike, Big Mike, Daniell, Taylor and Georgie. Father Greg did an mind blown homily and we thank him for coming all the way out to PA to marry us. The overall experience was amazing and we are so pleased with the outcome. The reception was like no reception I have or will ever attend. We had an amazing turn out and the food was spectacular. This was truly an out of body experience for Matthew and I. We just floated through the day with a huge smile across our faces. We can not wait for our wedding video and photographs because they are going to be SOOO gorgeous! We are just thrilled and look forward to spending the rest of our lives together. We leave for our honeymoon on Wednesday and we just know that this crazy amount of love and excitement we have experienced these last few days will continue to grow and fill our hearts with joy. So thank you to everyone who pushed through this wedding because we made it and it was worth everything we endured to get there. You guys are the ones who have proven your love and devotion to Matthew and I and we appreciate and reciprocate that feeling right back to you. It's time like these that you really see who cares about you and who doesn't and we are so blessed with how many people came out to the church and to the reception. We were shocked to have seen soooo many old familiar faces of friends we haven't seen in YEARS... thank you all for coming... it meant so much to Matthew and I for you to have celebrated our love with us. We look forward to our lives together and of course would do anything for you guys when the tables are turned. Thanks again!
Thursday, July 1, 2010
30 day count down!
AHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH!!!!! I am so excited!!!!!!!! In less than a month I will be married!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I can not waitttttt!
This is so crazy! I am so so so excited! Ive been doing alot of thinking, planning, and organizing lately and realize that I am the happiest I have ever been at this moment despite all the craziness going on! It feels amazing to be this happy. I feel like such a success too because it is actually happening and Matt and I made it happen regardless of what everyone else said along the way. Matt and I are doing amazing right now.... we were always doing great but we have an ultra special connection to each other as the wedding draws closer and closer. Its fantastic and its only going to get stronger. I hope everyone is as excited as I am. All the stress is gone. My to-do list is much tinier... almost done! Matt and I just need to take care of the place cards and get our homework done for our 10 day meeting!
Switching gears...
I had the most amazing bridal shower ever! Thank you to everyone who came and special thanks to everyone who helped make that day so freaking perfect. I was really surprised and really expected to go to a 3 year olds birthday party!! I came with a gift and everything! We had an amazing turn out and I am so blessed to have all that love and support in my life! There are pictures and despite what some people have said about them... we had a blast and I couldnt have asked for anything better! I am the most amazing friends and I am so excited about joining Matt's family! Throughout the my whole life, my family has always been hundred of miles away from us and we never had many opportunities to bond and spend time with each other so it means a lot to me that I now have a family that I can continuously share parts of my life with at anytime. I am so excited about my new life with matt and just know that its only going to get better. So to those of you who have shared in our happiness and love thus far... thank you, it means so much to us! (Pictures to come when blogger will let me)
We will continue to share our thoughts with you as we get closer to our day! Life is certainly getting more interesting as each day passes. Before we know it, it will be here and Matt and I will be off to our honeymoon and I will be Mrs. Matthew Vanacore :)
Awesome!
Thanks for reading... feel free to leave any comments!
This is so crazy! I am so so so excited! Ive been doing alot of thinking, planning, and organizing lately and realize that I am the happiest I have ever been at this moment despite all the craziness going on! It feels amazing to be this happy. I feel like such a success too because it is actually happening and Matt and I made it happen regardless of what everyone else said along the way. Matt and I are doing amazing right now.... we were always doing great but we have an ultra special connection to each other as the wedding draws closer and closer. Its fantastic and its only going to get stronger. I hope everyone is as excited as I am. All the stress is gone. My to-do list is much tinier... almost done! Matt and I just need to take care of the place cards and get our homework done for our 10 day meeting!
Switching gears...
I had the most amazing bridal shower ever! Thank you to everyone who came and special thanks to everyone who helped make that day so freaking perfect. I was really surprised and really expected to go to a 3 year olds birthday party!! I came with a gift and everything! We had an amazing turn out and I am so blessed to have all that love and support in my life! There are pictures and despite what some people have said about them... we had a blast and I couldnt have asked for anything better! I am the most amazing friends and I am so excited about joining Matt's family! Throughout the my whole life, my family has always been hundred of miles away from us and we never had many opportunities to bond and spend time with each other so it means a lot to me that I now have a family that I can continuously share parts of my life with at anytime. I am so excited about my new life with matt and just know that its only going to get better. So to those of you who have shared in our happiness and love thus far... thank you, it means so much to us! (Pictures to come when blogger will let me)
We will continue to share our thoughts with you as we get closer to our day! Life is certainly getting more interesting as each day passes. Before we know it, it will be here and Matt and I will be off to our honeymoon and I will be Mrs. Matthew Vanacore :)
Awesome!
Thanks for reading... feel free to leave any comments!
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