95 days married!

The last 95 days have been the best days of my life! I can't believe that in 5 days, Matt and I will have been married for 100 days! We celebrate each other everyday and it is amazing. I love counting our days. If your reading and married.. or getting married... how many days have you been together or have until you get married? Do you share similar feelings? What are some of your fondest memories together? We would love to hear from you!

What does the future hold in store for us? The next 100 days should be very exciting. Everyday is better than the last. We are working very hard on some big life changing changes but only God knows what is in store for us. We are ready for whatever life has to throw at us.

Matthew and I had a wonderful 1st Halloween together as a married couple. We celebrated with a group of our friends and had a wonderful time. I was a pirate and Matt was a gangster... maybe next year we will have matching costumes or something lol. Christmas is right around the corner and I am not ready for the holiday season in the least. Since the wedding and honeymoon, we havent had the chance to continue where we left off. In other words, we need to seriously clean up our almost 100 days old wedding mess. Our lives blasted off immediately after the wedding and have been nonstop since so there has been little time for cleaning. I'll find time around Thanksgiving when everyone has off, company rarely comes over anyway... we normally go out.

In a nut shell, life is good and we are very happy. The future looks bright for us, as it should. Everything always works out, even when it looks like it might not. Thats something I learned and trusted during the wedding process.... God always provides even when it seems like things are impossible. Some people have a hard time trusting that things will work out when they appear difficult but Ive learned that you can't fight what you can not control so sit back and enjoy the ride. Thanks for reading!

Nearly 10 weeks later...

Hey everyone, so its been almost 10 weeks since Matt and I were joined in love before God and our friends and it has been the bees knees! We are so happy. Everyday is a blessing and we are truly thankful for having each other in our lives. Falling asleep and waking up next to the person you love the most in the world, is really a soothing feeling and it starts and ends every day as it should. Since we have been married, we have noticed a strong instinct between one another. Everything the priest said about marriage is true, its more than a wedding, its a sacrament and a life long commitment to one another that lassos itself around both our hearts and God, then is interlocked together forever and ever. It's an overwhelming calm feeling we share when we are reunited throughout the day. It's really cool and I am honored to have Matthew as my husband for the rest of my life.

Since the wedding Matthew and I have been very busy. Our lives have not settled down at all. We are constantly organizing future plans and living in the moment...the very busy moment. I realize that we like our lives busy because it's too short for us to stop planning and doing things. We have one life together and we are going to make the most of it. We are living our lives our way... and no one elses. I am very proud of what we have accomplished and what we will accomplish and create in the future. It is very exciting, so expect big things from us because we don't do 'small'. LOL

I have never felt this much at peace with my life. I feel as if I have cut out all the dead weight from me and am reborn to do what I want, when I want, without care. I don't need to bother dwelling in the past because our future is so bright and full of amazing events. Our past is dead and won't be coming back to life so there is no need to mourn. It's a great feeling. I highly recommend this feeling. LOL

While we are on the topic of future goals and ambitions, does anyone have any questions or advice for us? We don't claim to know everything there is about everything so any words of advice would be appreciated. We will continue to keep you updated on our live and events as much as we are able to. Thanks for reading!

19 days married!!!

Hey everyone,
Matt and I will be married for 3 full weeks in 2 days! We are going away to celebrate and then having dinner with some friends! The last 19 days have been the happiest days of my life. I feel reborn and all the things that bothered me in the past, are dead and gone because I have moved on. I have more important things to concentrate on now... I have my own family now and a life of my own. It's absolutely wonderful. I have always asked "What does it feel like to be married" to my friends who have gotten married before me. They always said..."it feels the same except now we are married". Well, it does feel the same but everything is better! It's a difficult feeling to explain in words, but I can feel how much stronger our relationship is now that we are married. It's a deeper, more powerful love than before. It's wonderful and we are both so happy. Our wedding was perfect. Nearly everyone came to celebrate with us and everyone raved about how our wedding was one of the best weddings they have ever attended. It was definitely the best wedding/party I ever had and ever will. We are both so excited about our lives together and cannot wait to share so many deep and powerful moments together.

Our lives are so young and fresh... we can do anything right now. The number one question people have been asking is "When can we expect a baby?" We want children whenever God is ready to give us children. Babies are not 'planned' even though some couples 'try' for babies...they are not necessarily going to get a child when they want one. God will give life only when He sees fit and neither Matt nor I will fight it when/if our time comes and neither should anyone else.

The last 19 days have been a dream. I highly recommend this feeling and don't see how we won't continue to have this feeling for the rest of our lives. We believe that when you find true love, it can with stand anything...you just need to be willing to give and take a little from each other. We are preparing for a new chapter of our lives together and I have the feeling that things will be getting very interesting in the next year or two. Thanks for reading!

The out of body experience:

Its been 32 days since our last post! We are now 2 days married and are more than thrilled!! Our wedding was absolutely perfect and we couldn't have wanted it any other way! We had such a great time, everything was better than we could have ever imagined. Matt had breakfast in bed delivered to me, surprised me with fancy new jewelery, gave me live entertainment, and a magician to entertain everyone during cocktail hour! It was absolutely perfect!



Thank you to everyone who came out for the ceremony and those of you who came and partied with us at the reception! We'd like to thank everyone who helped make our special day so incredible; my dad, Matt's mother, my maids of honor Cait and Jill, the best men Steven and John, and of course the bridal party Christina, Ashley, Rachel, Nicole, Mike, Maeve, Zach, Anthony, Abbie and Jenn, Julius, Jenn, Jules, Devon, and Little Mike, Big Mike, Daniell, Taylor and Georgie. Father Greg did an mind blown homily and we thank him for coming all the way out to PA to marry us. The overall experience was amazing and we are so pleased with the outcome. The reception was like no reception I have or will ever attend. We had an amazing turn out and the food was spectacular. This was truly an out of body experience for Matthew and I. We just floated through the day with a huge smile across our faces. We can not wait for our wedding video and photographs because they are going to be SOOO gorgeous! We are just thrilled and look forward to spending the rest of our lives together. We leave for our honeymoon on Wednesday and we just know that this crazy amount of love and excitement we have experienced these last few days will continue to grow and fill our hearts with joy. So thank you to everyone who pushed through this wedding because we made it and it was worth everything we endured to get there. You guys are the ones who have proven your love and devotion to Matthew and I and we appreciate and reciprocate that feeling right back to you. It's time like these that you really see who cares about you and who doesn't and we are so blessed with how many people came out to the church and to the reception. We were shocked to have seen soooo many old familiar faces of friends we haven't seen in YEARS... thank you all for coming... it meant so much to Matthew and I for you to have celebrated our love with us. We look forward to our lives together and of course would do anything for you guys when the tables are turned. Thanks again!

30 day count down!

AHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH!!!!! I am so excited!!!!!!!! In less than a month I will be married!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I can not waitttttt!

This is so crazy! I am so so so excited! Ive been doing alot of thinking, planning, and organizing lately and realize that I am the happiest I have ever been at this moment despite all the craziness going on! It feels amazing to be this happy. I feel like such a success too because it is actually happening and Matt and I made it happen regardless of what everyone else said along the way. Matt and I are doing amazing right now.... we were always doing great but we have an ultra special connection to each other as the wedding draws closer and closer. Its fantastic and its only going to get stronger. I hope everyone is as excited as I am. All the stress is gone. My to-do list is much tinier... almost done! Matt and I just need to take care of the place cards and get our homework done for our 10 day meeting!

Switching gears...

I had the most amazing bridal shower ever! Thank you to everyone who came and special thanks to everyone who helped make that day so freaking perfect. I was really surprised and really expected to go to a 3 year olds birthday party!! I came with a gift and everything! We had an amazing turn out and I am so blessed to have all that love and support in my life! There are pictures and despite what some people have said about them... we had a blast and I couldnt have asked for anything better! I am the most amazing friends and I am so excited about joining Matt's family! Throughout the my whole life, my family has always been hundred of miles away from us and we never had many opportunities to bond and spend time with each other so it means a lot to me that I now have a family that I can continuously share parts of my life with at anytime. I am so excited about my new life with matt and just know that its only going to get better. So to those of you who have shared in our happiness and love thus far... thank you, it means so much to us! (Pictures to come when blogger will let me)



We will continue to share our thoughts with you as we get closer to our day! Life is certainly getting more interesting as each day passes. Before we know it, it will be here and Matt and I will be off to our honeymoon and I will be Mrs. Matthew Vanacore :)

Awesome!

Thanks for reading... feel free to leave any comments!

50 days away!

Hey everyone!

I just wanted to remind all of you who have received invitations that the RSVP's are due the 15th. I'll probably wait until the 20th to start calling on guest list B. I really need some kind of confirmation though, so please... I already stamped it for you. Thank you!

On another note... Matt and I are really excited! We had our engagement pictures officially done last weekend (last year we went to Sears and they were OK but over a year old). The wedding cake is taken care of and I believe I have a DJ also. I have a hair appointment this Sunday to try out hair styles. Flowers are done as well... awesome story behind them! We have our marriage license and honeymoon booked too! We took care of my wedding band...which I can not wait to see! The only things left on my list is to find a limo and get a wedding band for Matt. Jill is on top of the limo issue and finding a ring for Matt will be easy. Wow! Just think... about 2 months ago I was stressing out because of my huge to-do-list! It's all taken care of for the most part now. People didn't think we could pull this off but like I've been saying... I have faith that everything will work out and it has. Sometimes you just need to let go and let the universe do it's thing. Its what I did when I decided on my college and its what I did when I decided to get married... I just trusted that everything would turn out ok. I am so happy and so excited for us. We are already making plans for our next big hurtle after the wedding. Our lives keep moving and the world will keep providing for us and everything is going to be ok. Some people have trouble with not having a game plan set in cement but Im ok with it.

What are my plans for this weekend? Well, dress fittings, happy hours, hair appointments, work, birthday parties, and if God gives me time... cleaning. Next week I will be emailing the music coordinator for the church to tell her what music we want... and I guess sometime after that my reception coordinator will want to meet with me to discuss the food and appearance of the reception... finally.

Well... the wedding is 50 days away. July is going to be a crazy month. I have 2 weddings to attend and a praxis test to take. Matt has been studying for his cpa and will be taking a test the day before the wedding! On top of all that... I will be doing a summer job in addition to planning a wedding! LOL No one can say that we don't work hard right? lol This is what I have been waiting for... this calm...stress free feeling of enjoyment. I think I can finally sit back and chill a moment, if only for a moment. This stress feeling is nothing like the other stress feelings I have experienced before... this is a stress I almost enjoy having. 50 days guys... 50 days. :)

Invites sent!

Hello Readers!
I am sure our readers have doubled since our last post since the invites went out! Wedding plans are coming along smoothly... I am extremely proud of myself for balancing all that I have on my plate now. As stated in the invitation, I will be needed an RSVP no later than June 15. This will give me a better idea as to who is coming and how many more places I may need to purchase. Thank you for all your cooperation and I hope to see you all in 69 days!

On a more solemn note: I would like to address yet another situation to a confused and disgruntled reader. I have never had the opportunity to break up with a person until a not so recent situation aired its ugly head.. over and over again. I am tired of the games and I am emotionally worn down with the fighting so let me say this and say it in a blog for everyone to read so that there may be proof and comments about this conversation which I would have preferred over the phone but was left with no open lines of communication besides a wedding blog. I know your reading and because your reading you care on some twisted level. I loved you and you hurt me and those I love dearly. You use to be someone I admired, loved, befriended, and leaned on but time has changed you and I can not hold you as that person any longer. After years of fighting and attempts to repair a lost relationship, I am THROWING in the TOWEL. Last time we talked, I told you it was over between us but I guess you did not understand the reality of those words. I am in full control of my life and do not need to consult anyone besides those I chose to include. You are not welcome in my life anymore, not because I want you to be left in the dark but because you refuse to let go and move on to more pleasant times with me or those associated with me. You have not proven to me that you are capable of changing for the best, instead you continue to put me down whenever we have interactions. YOU were the one who told me you wanted nothing to do with this wedding so don't act surprised when you didn't get an invitation to one of the most important days of my life. I am ok with this plan, it is you who is refusing to see me in a new and more mature light. I honestly expected better from you and thought you would change your tone when you saw that you were not invited but instead you call me unforgivable names and expect me to apologize and ask you to stand beside me down the isle. I am in the driver seat. This is my wedding and I make the rules. You hate that. You think you can make things better by threatening me and destroying those I love? You think you have the same friends you once did and the support by those ppl like you once did... but your'e wrong. Its not your fault, people change but I don't have to be your friend anymore and neither do they. Look at your life as it is right now. I hope your happy because you lost me amongst others you held dear. You lost respect, love, happiness, and more. Money won't buy these things back. Ive waited around for you too long and in 69 days, I will be moving forward with my life with full throttle. I doubt you will be included and I wont cry a tear for you. I'll always cherish the person you use to be but Im an adult now and see you for who you really are at this point in time. You bring me down and when we are apart, I think about strategies to bring us together again. I am tired of being disappointed. You think I havent tried fixing anything but I have. You need to apologize and mean it but be prepared to be shot down at times because sometimes sorry isn't enough. I have nothing to apologize for. I will say that I tried calling you but was sent to voice mail because you were too busy bad mouthing me to answer the call. I had a civilized conversation planned in my head prior to the bomb dropping but you over reacted again, like you always do and did not give me an opportunity to have it with you. Stop texting me threats and leave me alone. The people who show at my wedding love and support me. I'll be honest and say that I dont think Ill be over this in the next 69 days to consider letting you in my heart again. If you loved me and wanted to be part of my life, you would have tried over and over again. So Im sorry you lost me. This is the last time you will ever hear from me unless you chose to try and fix this. I have all rights to hang up and send to voice mail because your reputation with conversations with me is a famous one I know too well. Take me seriously word for word. You will never hear from me again. This relationship is over.

Checking things off the list :)

Hey Readers,

Matt and I had another effective weekend. Invitations should be complete within the next few weeks. They look great! However, I do not recommend making your own invitations from scratch... it is far too much work but actual invitations cost way too much. Eh, its what you need to do when your on a budget.

Speaking of budget.... everyone reading is aware of the wedding drama that has been going down with select parties. Well Id just like to put it out there that someone who could remain nameless, but wont because it is just WAY too much fun to point this out... Blair is going to pay half of Rachel's college tuition (which is awesome and I wish he would have done so for matt) That is apparently the newest reason he could not donate to the wedding fund. Now, Im not pissed at anyone for not being able to chip in because we all understand that money is tight but when you
A- Dont have a mortgage because you live with your mother
B- Dont pay for your car/gas because your work does
C- Get a yearly bonus of XX,XXX amount each year
D- Kicked your youngest son out the house and have one less mouth to feed
E- Can hold his 'EX' wife and 'ex' step son on his health policy
F- Collected hundreds of thousands of dollars from your divorce with LISA
G- Buy 2 of ur kids LAP TOPS for christmas
H- And house hunt in Baltimore
I- Take weekend getaways and vacations with other peoples kids
There is no reason he should not have additional money SAVED for when HIS kids get married. Writing a check for Rachel's college is awesome but it proves that there is extra money saved for his kids. Seeing how he didnt pay shit towards Matts education, its a jack ass move on his part. Now that everyone has read this... lol if Rachel doesn't get money for college, u can all think hes a bigger liar than before. He will tell people that he helped matt with college, but if that was true, Matt wouldnt owe what he owes. What he might be referring to is when Matt and I went to Italy.. JACKIE used frequent flier points to discount his ticket and JACKIE tried to pay off some of his loans (which did not dent what he owed). That marriage didnt last long and again, Blair will blame Lisa and his kids but the truth is he is a liar LOL and hide the fact that he went to anger management classes because he is a wife beater...along with other things.

Its my blog and I can discuss whatever I want... its not like any of this shit is new. Now I'm going to stop wasting my time talking about a dead beat dad when I am obviously making this wedding work. Bottom line is that this is happening and I am going to marry the best man I have ever and will ever meet. We love each other and if having an elaborate wedding was important to us, we would have went another way in doing this but God has provided us with this plan and its working JUST fine. If that pisses people off then stop reading and ignore everything. Matt and I have been counting down the days on FB and listing one reason a day why we love eachother... some people think its GAY and that we will not have enough reasons for the 97 days we have left but we will lol. In fact, I think Matt and I's relationship is so unlike everyone else' generic relationship that this is why our relationship will work. When you experience what we have... you just understand what makes your relationship standout from everyone else. Matt and I both come from broken families and I could spend forever bitching about both of them, but what we learned from our effed up family drama, is how NOT to treat each other. Some people will say love is complicated but if your love is complicated then what you think is love... can't be. Loving someone should be easy..not complicated. Im not saying that love does not require work but working for love should be a simple emotion... something that does not piss you off when you need to do it. I love every piece of relationship that is thrown at me and matt. Enough with the mushy love talk.

I look forward to our new life together and love the people who will become my new family... even if some of them don't care for me. I accept what I have and could not ask for anything better. I am truly blessed. Thanks for reading.

Taking care of buisness

Tux rentals are now checked off the list!
Bridesmaids shoes are also checked off the list!
Wedding invitation paper is also in!

What happens next? Well... most likely wedding invitation assembly party, part II. I am thinking this Friday might be good...sooner rather than later is best. We are starting to seriously research transportation and hotel accommodations for our out of town guests also. That would require us to know how many of our out of towners will be joining us so it might be awhile. I also need to call the music coordinator for the church to discuss who is singing and what they will be singing. So we are slowly but surely making progress towards our special day. Eloping would have been easier and less dramatic but this is what we deserve. What I don't need is people second guessing my choices and stuff like that. Input is always appreciated but try not to criticize my decisions.

We get more excited with everyday that passes by. The count down from today is 105 days! I can't wait to marry my best friend...what Matt and I have is special and though I know it will be tough at times, I know what we have will last for a life time.

In other news, Wednesday was my birthday. Thank you to everyone who texted/called/emailed me a happy birthday. My birthday was drama-free for the most part.

Ok well the ball is rolling and isn't going to stop everrrrr. I'll keep you posted on what happens next! Thanks for reading.

Crossing things off the list

Hello All,

So we took care of the flowers yesterday. They're really nice and we found a nice corporation who can do it for dirt cheap (I heart capitalism). Our favors came in the mail yesterday as well. We're pleased with them, but they did not come assembled, which means we just have more work to do. Melissa also got her alterations to the wedding dress finished yesterday. The dress will be ready sometime in July. Next week is tuxedo weekend. Remember everyone, Oxford Valley mall @ 1:00 PM. The new batch of paper for the invitations should be arriving on Wednesday. Hopefully this time it will go a tad bit better. Melissa's stressing about transportation, but I think everything will be fine. I mean, really, at the end of the night will someone really not give us a ride? But Meliss is worried everyone will be wasted. Anyone have transportation suggestions? Thanks for listening. Things are going smoothly and this was a very productive weekend. Continue to tune in ;-)as we grow closer to our special date.

-Matt

Moving along

Hey people,
Things are moving along, slowly but surely. I got a lot accomplished this week. I have an official appointment with the florist, a dress fitting on saturday, and a honeymoon booked! Matt has a tux fitting coming up and then I think we may call the cake people again to make a second appointment. I am more prepared for this cake appointment because I am getting the cake I dreamed about but these people arent making it. The cake that comes with the hall will be decorated differently so I dont need them to do anything crazy like I originally asked. The most difficult decision so far is about the actual invitations. I may go with a package of do-it-yourself cards because making them from scratch isnt as easy as I thought. When me and the girls attempted putting the cards together, they folded weird and we will use what wasnt folded as programs...really cute programs. Now that our honeymoon is booked, Im even more excited! Things are really coming along. Hopefully I will be able to knock out this list asap. The wedding is less than four months away at this point. At Easter when I saw Matts family, everyone was talking about it. Everyone seems excited for us and are looking forward to it. Its weird... I probably wont see most of them again until our big day. Oh mannnn!!! : )

Some questions for people to think about:
How does one work out transportation to a wedding?? How do I get from my house, to the church, to the photo site, back to the church maybe to pick up cars, and then to the reception site...and then home? Do I get a limo for the entire day? Can they do that? I dont want to ride alone so the girls need to come with me but at the end of the night, its just me and matt...and the girls need to have cars at the reception site. Idk... it needs to be inexpensive-ish and safe...and air conditioned. LOL

Well thats all for now.. nighty night :)

Priest Encounter

Matt and I had an appointment with the priest today. It was yet another experience. We got there and we start talking....you know, he asks how wedding plans are going and whatnot. Then he shows us this book with all the readings and songs we need to pick for the mass. Then he asks about our precana class and we gave him the certificate. THEN he tells us he needs to interview us individually and matt needs to leave the room. OMG...isnt that what precana was for? Ok so matt leaves and hes asking me questions about my parents, my catholic background, CCD, my views on kids, and then how often I go to church. I was doing great until he asked me what church I belonged to. Honestly, I havent registered with my neighborhood church so IDK. For the love of God I could NOT remember the name of my neighborhood church.... all I could say was that the cemetery was around the corner from my house but could not remember the name. So he pulls out this directory and names the churches in Bensalem...but none of them are clicking in my head so instead of saying "Hey Father, I dont live in Bensalem" I picked a random church that he just said and rationalized it with "The cemetery must not belong to that church". LOL He tells me that I need to register of course and I tell him that I still send money to St Barts and I still come to church there. But I still need to register with my church. Ok.. by then I am nervous as humanly possible lol because he said this interview was to see if we were prepared for what we were getting into. In addition to this dumb fuck up, I dont think he wrote down La Salle as 4 years of catholic education... lol Should I email him, call him, or just forget about it? I belong to Our Lady of Grace...in Langhorne. Priests freak me out... IDK. He actually looks Jewish. Matt doesnt think the priest likes him very much but when Matt told him that a Franciscan Monk might be marrying us, the priest changed his tone. Do you think he is going to look into this?? He is going to follow me up and see if I registered lol? IDK he wrote it all down... I just dont do well under pressure. Matt was listening in and told me he could hear the bubbliness fall out of my voice lol. Matt's interview was the same except he did awesome. Well, I guess if we failed the interview he might have told us right then and there lol.

Changing topics....
This weekend I had a wedding invitation assembly party at my house lol. It went awesome until we tried folding the cards. We did like 3 samples and they ALL worked. However, after spending hours gluing and cutting card stock together, the invitations bubbled when we folded them and they did not fold well. It turns out that when creating your own invitations from scratch, fold first, then glue. I am rather depressed about this because I really NEEDED to get them done. What we didnt fold will be used for programs but I need to order new paper and do this again. I dont need to think about programs yet but at least I have some of them taken care of. Oh mannnnn!

Im looking into having Acme do our flowers. I am going to call Genardis and Giant later this week so I can get a few different prices. I heard they do a nice job and are inexpensive.

Well, things are really picking up speed and I'm starting to freak out about the things we still have left to do. It will all come together in the end.

This is our list of unfinished tasks we need to do before the wedding:

Flowers
Finish paying off the hall
Get wedding invitations
Mail invitations
Chose readings/songs- after Easter I was told
Dress alterations- April 10 (still need a bra and shoes)
Seating chart
Figure out who is coming and fill in extra spaces for those who will not be there
Book our honeymoon- possibly this week
2nd meeting with the cake people
Meet with the venue guy and tell him what color table cloths we need
Limo arrangements
Figure out hair stuff (who, how much, make up?, girls?)
Assemble/Print remainder of the programs
Rehearsal- Thursday before the wedding
Get flower girl dress
Get the boys Tuxs
Get my wedding bang made (2 months before the wedding)
Engagement pictures (End of May/June)
Pay for photographer (Nathan from Rome)
Get Father Greg in PA to marry us

Making a list did not help ease my anxiety lol. Idk if I forgot anything but its alot and the wedding is in 4 months. It would be awesome to have some cooperation. If you have any suggestions or tips, please share. Well thats all for now, so Ill chime in later on this week with more details about the wedding. xoxo

Nothings ever simple

Hey all,

Its crazy that Matt and I will be getting married in about 4 months!!! Let me tell you, this is some freaking experience. As a child I never really day dreamed about my wedding. It just wasn't a priority but here we are, 128 days away. I dreamed about love but never anything larger than that. Some people think I forced Matt into this... in fact, Im going to put it out there... Blair is telling people I forced Matt into this. Forcing Matt to marry me... humm, I believe that happens when people get pregnant. Im not pregnant and most certainly didnt make Matt buy a ring. But while we are talking about getting pregnant, how would you feel if you heard your soon-to-be father-in-law was taking bets on when when you would get knocked up? LOL I want kids eventually and will have kids when matt and I are ready. Its not a joke and it shouldnt be said from someone with such a rocky relationship because now I want to go out and get knocked up just BECAUSE lol. I wont of course but when matt and I cross that bridge, I now know how his effing father feels about it lol. Oh well, its our life and our decisions.

Since we r the first couple to actually get married, planning this wedding is a lot harder because we are figuring it all out without the assistance of a prior wedding example. You'd think that planning a wedding would be greatest event ever but I often think about just eloping so people can back the eff off it. You'd think people would be happy for you but a few people won't be. Its a time where you really discover who loves you and who doesnt. Don't get me wrong, I dont give a flying fuck about those ass holes and I am soaking in every minute of this special event. Its just annoying because it doesnt make sense why everyone cant just be excited for you. For example, my mother is a bitch. She will not be at the wedding because she's a bitch and has done unforgivable things to me and my family. I feel NO shame or guilt not inviting her because she has ruined some of the most important days of my life already and will and is trying to ruin this for me too. To her, I say fuck you. To the people like her, I also say fuck you and hope you get massive diarrhea so badly you shit your pants in front of your so called friends. The people who are present at the wedding will know who is missing and will ask me why they aren't there. I am going to LOVE telling them why because the people missing will look like a bigger ass than they already are. My mothers family is going to be there and they ALL KNOW who she is and why shes not there. My sister may not be in the wedding because my mother refuses to buy her a dress.... and Im not buying it so she wont be a bridesmaid. This is suppose to hurt me? Thats my moms point.... but never play chicken with me because I wont budge. I refuse to buy her a dress because my mother hasnt done SHIT for us in the last 5 years and honestly, my sisters a bit of a bitch to us. What my mom doesnt anticipate is how I wont budge and Nicole wont be in the wedding... Nicole can get pissed at my mom, but not me. Nicole doesnt really want to be in the wedding anyway and Im perfectly ok with that. Nothing is going to ruin this for us. So to those who wish pain and difficulty on us... fuck you. LOL I dont have time for people who dont give a shit about us... I have a wedding to plan and only people with loving energy will b there.

Let's talk FLOWERS :) Any suggestions out there? Flowers is an area we are willing to cut down some, so they need to be cheapish. Im going to be checking out some places this weekend and will see how I do. In addition to flower stores, we have an appointment with the priest on Monday :) I'm excited because we r going to be picking out readings and music and stuff like that. Its a cool feeling because until recently, planning this wedding only felt like planning a dream that probably wouldnt come. But now, now its happening and nothing is stopping us. I told everyone originally that they needed to just go with my plan. We are responsible people and make good choices. I like to jump into things with my eyes closed... thats what I did when I chose La Salle... I didnt know wtf I was going to study or how I would pay it off, but I just knew Id be ok. And I was right.

Id like to open this blog for suggestions. Id love to hear tips about flowers. Id love to hear how other people cope with wedding drama. Id love to hear any suggestions/tips/stories from anyone else about your wedding or a wedding you have been to. Thanks for listening, have a freaking awesome night. YAY Friday :)

Hi All,

So the wedding is in 129 days. I'm trying to organize the Tux thing for next Saturday on the April 03. This needs to get completed as soon as possible, but I do not want to put forth all of that energy until after the test on Thursday. I'm spread thing enough as is; last thing I need is to be spread even thinner. I'm running in overdrive. I barely have any time to myself anymore and there is not enough time in the day to spend time with Melissa. Tonight, I am studying Ethics and property tax. I have no idea why those two subjects comprise one chapter.

I miss Melissa. I don't have enough time to see her anymore. I also miss Cocoa; I love that dog. The test is on Thursday and this will all be over soon. Except for the fact that there are three more tests after the one on Thursday.

Arrivederci!

Am I Invited?

Hello All,

This post is literally for anyone reading this. Meliss and I have received a great deal of inquiry from many people asking if they are invited. We are sorry to state that we are not the Fed and we do not have our own personal printing press. If we did, then all 7 billion people on earth would be invited.

Meliss and I are personally paying for this out of our own pockets with limited assistance from the parentals. There was a much larger guest list originally, but due to lack of co-operation with some of the parents we were coerced into making two separate lists: the Musts and the Wants. We have already sent out "save the dates" to the Musts list. The Musts will also be receiving invitations soon. Once we get a better number from the RSVPs from the Musts then we can send any fallout spots to the Wants list.

This may sound very obnoxious, or even elitist, but please don't take it personally. I have well over a hundred relatives coming to this and Meliss has a large chunk. And for those of you that know us are well aware that we have hundreds upon hundreds of friends. There is just not enough room or money to cover everyone.

Just because you have not received a save the date does not mean you won't eventually get one or that we do not want you there. We are truly sorry if we offended anyone or hurt anyone's feelings. Remember, even if you are not invited to the reception, you are more than welcome to attend the Ceremony at St. Bartholomew's Church at Jackson and E. Sanger Streets. Philadelphia PA 19124.

Thanks for understanding.

Why start a blog?

To those of you who may not know me, my name is Melissa and this is a wedding blog me and fiance have created to share our thoughts and feelings as we grow closer to our special day. My fiance is Matt and he will also be posting blogs from time to time. I first met Matt when I was in high school. I needed a date to my junior prom. I had asked 3 people to go to prom with me and no one was able to make it. So my friend took it upon herself to play cupid, even though Matt had a girl friend. At first I wasn't thrilled about taking him to prom but he grew on me. We went to prom and it was fun but Matt continued dating his girlfriend for nearly another year. While he was with his girlfriend I continued to fall deeper and deeper for him. You can say I perused him. I use to visit him at work, make him Christmas cookies, Valentinesday Cards, Irish potatoes, and Easter baskets. Matt finally became single during my senior year of HS and his freshmen year of college. One of my close friends at the time encouraged me to ask him to our winter formal because who know where he'd be come prom season again. I grew the courage to ask him to the dance and he said yes. The same friend forced our first kiss on ourselves by encouraging us to take a "wild picture with our tongues out" and from that, our relationship soared. We didnt officially become an item until March 2005 when Matt creatively asked me to be his girlfriend. What can I say? We've been together nonstop ever since. Since then Matt and I have gone to college together. He studied Accounting and I studied education. He graduated, got a job, and I stayed in school completing my student teaching. It hasn't been real easy but Id like to think that its been easy enough. In 2007 we both went abroad and lived in Rome where we had the opportunity to travel all over Europe. Thats where we feel our relationship grew into something truly special. We are having an Italian themed wedding because of it. We got engaged in October of 2008. Matt came up with yet another creative proposal and I had no choice but to say yes lol. Originally we were going to get married in 2011 just because it seemed like it made sense. But sometimes making sense doesn't always make sense? 2010 is just a better number and a year really won't make a difference. We've been together for 5 years now and don't plan on changing it up. So here we are, 131 days away from our day. We are getting married July 31 this summer. We really can't wait. Its very exciting. Anyway, back to my original question... why start a blog? Well, I'm the type of person who wears my emotions on my arm.... because I am excited and want everyone else to be excited with me. So please, if your not going to say anything nice, go fuck yourself lol. I arranged some pictures of me and matt throughout the years just as something fun for us to do.

Hello World

Hi All,

Meliss and I made this to provide updates on our Wedding to wedding guests.