Priest Encounter

Matt and I had an appointment with the priest today. It was yet another experience. We got there and we start talking....you know, he asks how wedding plans are going and whatnot. Then he shows us this book with all the readings and songs we need to pick for the mass. Then he asks about our precana class and we gave him the certificate. THEN he tells us he needs to interview us individually and matt needs to leave the room. OMG...isnt that what precana was for? Ok so matt leaves and hes asking me questions about my parents, my catholic background, CCD, my views on kids, and then how often I go to church. I was doing great until he asked me what church I belonged to. Honestly, I havent registered with my neighborhood church so IDK. For the love of God I could NOT remember the name of my neighborhood church.... all I could say was that the cemetery was around the corner from my house but could not remember the name. So he pulls out this directory and names the churches in Bensalem...but none of them are clicking in my head so instead of saying "Hey Father, I dont live in Bensalem" I picked a random church that he just said and rationalized it with "The cemetery must not belong to that church". LOL He tells me that I need to register of course and I tell him that I still send money to St Barts and I still come to church there. But I still need to register with my church. Ok.. by then I am nervous as humanly possible lol because he said this interview was to see if we were prepared for what we were getting into. In addition to this dumb fuck up, I dont think he wrote down La Salle as 4 years of catholic education... lol Should I email him, call him, or just forget about it? I belong to Our Lady of Grace...in Langhorne. Priests freak me out... IDK. He actually looks Jewish. Matt doesnt think the priest likes him very much but when Matt told him that a Franciscan Monk might be marrying us, the priest changed his tone. Do you think he is going to look into this?? He is going to follow me up and see if I registered lol? IDK he wrote it all down... I just dont do well under pressure. Matt was listening in and told me he could hear the bubbliness fall out of my voice lol. Matt's interview was the same except he did awesome. Well, I guess if we failed the interview he might have told us right then and there lol.

Changing topics....
This weekend I had a wedding invitation assembly party at my house lol. It went awesome until we tried folding the cards. We did like 3 samples and they ALL worked. However, after spending hours gluing and cutting card stock together, the invitations bubbled when we folded them and they did not fold well. It turns out that when creating your own invitations from scratch, fold first, then glue. I am rather depressed about this because I really NEEDED to get them done. What we didnt fold will be used for programs but I need to order new paper and do this again. I dont need to think about programs yet but at least I have some of them taken care of. Oh mannnnn!

Im looking into having Acme do our flowers. I am going to call Genardis and Giant later this week so I can get a few different prices. I heard they do a nice job and are inexpensive.

Well, things are really picking up speed and I'm starting to freak out about the things we still have left to do. It will all come together in the end.

This is our list of unfinished tasks we need to do before the wedding:

Flowers
Finish paying off the hall
Get wedding invitations
Mail invitations
Chose readings/songs- after Easter I was told
Dress alterations- April 10 (still need a bra and shoes)
Seating chart
Figure out who is coming and fill in extra spaces for those who will not be there
Book our honeymoon- possibly this week
2nd meeting with the cake people
Meet with the venue guy and tell him what color table cloths we need
Limo arrangements
Figure out hair stuff (who, how much, make up?, girls?)
Assemble/Print remainder of the programs
Rehearsal- Thursday before the wedding
Get flower girl dress
Get the boys Tuxs
Get my wedding bang made (2 months before the wedding)
Engagement pictures (End of May/June)
Pay for photographer (Nathan from Rome)
Get Father Greg in PA to marry us

Making a list did not help ease my anxiety lol. Idk if I forgot anything but its alot and the wedding is in 4 months. It would be awesome to have some cooperation. If you have any suggestions or tips, please share. Well thats all for now, so Ill chime in later on this week with more details about the wedding. xoxo

Nothings ever simple

Hey all,

Its crazy that Matt and I will be getting married in about 4 months!!! Let me tell you, this is some freaking experience. As a child I never really day dreamed about my wedding. It just wasn't a priority but here we are, 128 days away. I dreamed about love but never anything larger than that. Some people think I forced Matt into this... in fact, Im going to put it out there... Blair is telling people I forced Matt into this. Forcing Matt to marry me... humm, I believe that happens when people get pregnant. Im not pregnant and most certainly didnt make Matt buy a ring. But while we are talking about getting pregnant, how would you feel if you heard your soon-to-be father-in-law was taking bets on when when you would get knocked up? LOL I want kids eventually and will have kids when matt and I are ready. Its not a joke and it shouldnt be said from someone with such a rocky relationship because now I want to go out and get knocked up just BECAUSE lol. I wont of course but when matt and I cross that bridge, I now know how his effing father feels about it lol. Oh well, its our life and our decisions.

Since we r the first couple to actually get married, planning this wedding is a lot harder because we are figuring it all out without the assistance of a prior wedding example. You'd think that planning a wedding would be greatest event ever but I often think about just eloping so people can back the eff off it. You'd think people would be happy for you but a few people won't be. Its a time where you really discover who loves you and who doesnt. Don't get me wrong, I dont give a flying fuck about those ass holes and I am soaking in every minute of this special event. Its just annoying because it doesnt make sense why everyone cant just be excited for you. For example, my mother is a bitch. She will not be at the wedding because she's a bitch and has done unforgivable things to me and my family. I feel NO shame or guilt not inviting her because she has ruined some of the most important days of my life already and will and is trying to ruin this for me too. To her, I say fuck you. To the people like her, I also say fuck you and hope you get massive diarrhea so badly you shit your pants in front of your so called friends. The people who are present at the wedding will know who is missing and will ask me why they aren't there. I am going to LOVE telling them why because the people missing will look like a bigger ass than they already are. My mothers family is going to be there and they ALL KNOW who she is and why shes not there. My sister may not be in the wedding because my mother refuses to buy her a dress.... and Im not buying it so she wont be a bridesmaid. This is suppose to hurt me? Thats my moms point.... but never play chicken with me because I wont budge. I refuse to buy her a dress because my mother hasnt done SHIT for us in the last 5 years and honestly, my sisters a bit of a bitch to us. What my mom doesnt anticipate is how I wont budge and Nicole wont be in the wedding... Nicole can get pissed at my mom, but not me. Nicole doesnt really want to be in the wedding anyway and Im perfectly ok with that. Nothing is going to ruin this for us. So to those who wish pain and difficulty on us... fuck you. LOL I dont have time for people who dont give a shit about us... I have a wedding to plan and only people with loving energy will b there.

Let's talk FLOWERS :) Any suggestions out there? Flowers is an area we are willing to cut down some, so they need to be cheapish. Im going to be checking out some places this weekend and will see how I do. In addition to flower stores, we have an appointment with the priest on Monday :) I'm excited because we r going to be picking out readings and music and stuff like that. Its a cool feeling because until recently, planning this wedding only felt like planning a dream that probably wouldnt come. But now, now its happening and nothing is stopping us. I told everyone originally that they needed to just go with my plan. We are responsible people and make good choices. I like to jump into things with my eyes closed... thats what I did when I chose La Salle... I didnt know wtf I was going to study or how I would pay it off, but I just knew Id be ok. And I was right.

Id like to open this blog for suggestions. Id love to hear tips about flowers. Id love to hear how other people cope with wedding drama. Id love to hear any suggestions/tips/stories from anyone else about your wedding or a wedding you have been to. Thanks for listening, have a freaking awesome night. YAY Friday :)

Hi All,

So the wedding is in 129 days. I'm trying to organize the Tux thing for next Saturday on the April 03. This needs to get completed as soon as possible, but I do not want to put forth all of that energy until after the test on Thursday. I'm spread thing enough as is; last thing I need is to be spread even thinner. I'm running in overdrive. I barely have any time to myself anymore and there is not enough time in the day to spend time with Melissa. Tonight, I am studying Ethics and property tax. I have no idea why those two subjects comprise one chapter.

I miss Melissa. I don't have enough time to see her anymore. I also miss Cocoa; I love that dog. The test is on Thursday and this will all be over soon. Except for the fact that there are three more tests after the one on Thursday.

Arrivederci!

Am I Invited?

Hello All,

This post is literally for anyone reading this. Meliss and I have received a great deal of inquiry from many people asking if they are invited. We are sorry to state that we are not the Fed and we do not have our own personal printing press. If we did, then all 7 billion people on earth would be invited.

Meliss and I are personally paying for this out of our own pockets with limited assistance from the parentals. There was a much larger guest list originally, but due to lack of co-operation with some of the parents we were coerced into making two separate lists: the Musts and the Wants. We have already sent out "save the dates" to the Musts list. The Musts will also be receiving invitations soon. Once we get a better number from the RSVPs from the Musts then we can send any fallout spots to the Wants list.

This may sound very obnoxious, or even elitist, but please don't take it personally. I have well over a hundred relatives coming to this and Meliss has a large chunk. And for those of you that know us are well aware that we have hundreds upon hundreds of friends. There is just not enough room or money to cover everyone.

Just because you have not received a save the date does not mean you won't eventually get one or that we do not want you there. We are truly sorry if we offended anyone or hurt anyone's feelings. Remember, even if you are not invited to the reception, you are more than welcome to attend the Ceremony at St. Bartholomew's Church at Jackson and E. Sanger Streets. Philadelphia PA 19124.

Thanks for understanding.

Why start a blog?

To those of you who may not know me, my name is Melissa and this is a wedding blog me and fiance have created to share our thoughts and feelings as we grow closer to our special day. My fiance is Matt and he will also be posting blogs from time to time. I first met Matt when I was in high school. I needed a date to my junior prom. I had asked 3 people to go to prom with me and no one was able to make it. So my friend took it upon herself to play cupid, even though Matt had a girl friend. At first I wasn't thrilled about taking him to prom but he grew on me. We went to prom and it was fun but Matt continued dating his girlfriend for nearly another year. While he was with his girlfriend I continued to fall deeper and deeper for him. You can say I perused him. I use to visit him at work, make him Christmas cookies, Valentinesday Cards, Irish potatoes, and Easter baskets. Matt finally became single during my senior year of HS and his freshmen year of college. One of my close friends at the time encouraged me to ask him to our winter formal because who know where he'd be come prom season again. I grew the courage to ask him to the dance and he said yes. The same friend forced our first kiss on ourselves by encouraging us to take a "wild picture with our tongues out" and from that, our relationship soared. We didnt officially become an item until March 2005 when Matt creatively asked me to be his girlfriend. What can I say? We've been together nonstop ever since. Since then Matt and I have gone to college together. He studied Accounting and I studied education. He graduated, got a job, and I stayed in school completing my student teaching. It hasn't been real easy but Id like to think that its been easy enough. In 2007 we both went abroad and lived in Rome where we had the opportunity to travel all over Europe. Thats where we feel our relationship grew into something truly special. We are having an Italian themed wedding because of it. We got engaged in October of 2008. Matt came up with yet another creative proposal and I had no choice but to say yes lol. Originally we were going to get married in 2011 just because it seemed like it made sense. But sometimes making sense doesn't always make sense? 2010 is just a better number and a year really won't make a difference. We've been together for 5 years now and don't plan on changing it up. So here we are, 131 days away from our day. We are getting married July 31 this summer. We really can't wait. Its very exciting. Anyway, back to my original question... why start a blog? Well, I'm the type of person who wears my emotions on my arm.... because I am excited and want everyone else to be excited with me. So please, if your not going to say anything nice, go fuck yourself lol. I arranged some pictures of me and matt throughout the years just as something fun for us to do.

Hello World

Hi All,

Meliss and I made this to provide updates on our Wedding to wedding guests.